The Kirk Report
Forgive Yourself
Friday, January 10, 2014 at 6:03 AM

“Forgiveness clears out the residue of the past. Until we forgive ourselves for what we did, did not do, or should have done, we will repeat our patterns. But when the mind is clear of guilt and shame, it focuses on what is here instead of what was, and lets us take each moment as it comes.” – Iyanla Vanzant

Just as important as taking responsibility for your losses is making sure you forgive yourself once you do. The forgiving part is just as important and usually proves much more difficult to do.

We should start out the new year by both recognizing and then forgiving ourselves for every mistake, stupid trade, bad move, and idiotic thing we did last year. It doesn’t matter how dumb or embarrassing it may have been. The past is the past. Once we accept responsibility, the next step is to forgive.

Forgive Yourself

If you don’t do that right away, I am afraid to tell you that you will never truly be able to move on and take full advantage of the
opportunities that this year will provide, no matter how hard you try. It truly is that important.

The problem with most of us is that we carry too much of the past around with us. This is true with both our successes and failures. But what happened last year, for good or evil, doesn’t mean diddly-squat now. All of us have a clean slate to work with and it is time to get to work. New years bring new beginnings and new opportunities. Don’t let the mistakes of the past carry on to the future.

So if you’re unhappy or regret anything you did last year, start this year by accepting responsibility and then forgive yourself. As far as the market is concerned, none of us are perfect. Making mistakes is part of the game and we all make our fair share. If you can honestly forgive yourself right now, you will take the first step toward having your best year ever.

“Every man should be born again on the first day of January. Start with a fresh page. Take up one hole more in the buckle if necessary, or let down one, according to circumstances; but on the first of January let every man gird himself once more, with his face to the front, and take no interest in the things that were and are past.” - Henry Ward Beecher